Avoidance

Avoidance: Web definitions: deliberately avoiding; keeping away from or preventing from happening. 

 

I suppose that at one time or another, we all wish we could stick our head in the sand.  Well, I'm past that.  I prefer to face things head-on and deal with reality.  Sure, sometimes it's rough, emotionally draining and even soul destroying but at least I am dealing with what is real.

I would like to issue you with a challenge.  Face up to your life!  Face up to what is really going on and deal with it!  I am so tired of the "great pretenders" who think that hiding from reality is okay.  You know what I think?  I think you're chicken, I think that you need to eat a bowl of self-respect, throw in a tablespoon of courage, then, swallow it all down with a glass of maturity. 

I am sorry if this sounds harsh, (I guess my own frustration is evident).   Something has happened, a life altering event, maybe some bad investment, or an argument that seems to have caused irreparable damage.  What rubbish, you can always fix it, just say sorry and make a plan to make things right.  

The truth is that the people who matter in your life will always love you - no matter what.  Even if you are not on speaking terms, your family will always love you - even when they don't like you.  So just be honest and stop hiding from what is.  So you've stuffed up?  Shocker!  We all have at some point. It does not matter.  What does matter is what you do about it.

Remember, we lead by example and our children are always watching and learning from us.  Do you want to raise a child that takes no ownership or responsibility?  I aspire to be as good as I can be and hopefully my children are proud to have me as a parent. 

The measure of a person is not taken from his/her mistakes but rather from their actions and sincerity to remedy any transgressions.  If you avoid someone for long enough they may not be around when you are ready to make amends.  Don't wait, don't hide or avoid.  Stand up, front up and make things right while it still matters.  You hold the power, do what needs doing (in the living years) or live with the regret.

Are you an ostrich or are you a lion?

I say… “Be the lion!”